This past week, I had the privilege of being one of three friends asked to speak at a book launch and celebration honoring the life of my friend Joe Bonsall, a 50-year member of the legendary Oak Ridge Boys. Joe’s remarkable legacy was not just in his music, though his voice undoubtedly touched millions. His true distinction lay in something even more profound: his ability to encourage others.
A recurring theme emerged as I listened to fellow speakers and spoke with audience members—Joe was an encourager.
He had a way of making others feel seen, valued, and capable. And it wasn’t limited to those in his industry. Whether it was a young musician dreaming of stardom or someone like me who works outside the entertainment world, Joe offered words of belief and support. His encouragement wasn’t strategic or self-serving. It came from a genuine place of care and connection.
In reflecting on his life, I couldn’t help but think about the transformative power of encouragement. In a world that often feels hyper-critical and divided, encouragement is one of our most underutilized and undervalued tools. But its impact is immense.
Encouragement Creates Belief
We’ve all faced moments of doubt—times when the mountain ahead seems insurmountable. In those moments, a simple word of encouragement can spark a belief we didn’t know we had. Joe’s encouragement often had this effect. His words didn’t just motivate; they instilled confidence. He had a knack for reminding people of their unique gifts, often when they struggled to see them themselves.
Belief is a powerful thing. It’s the foundation of every achievement and every act of courage. When someone believes in us, it’s as though they’re lending us strength until we can build our own. Encouragement, at its core, is the act of transferring belief.
Encouragement Inspires Action
Encouragement isn’t passive; it’s a call to action. When someone encourages us, they’re not just saying, “You can do this.” They’re saying, “You should do this.” It pushes us to move beyond our comfort zones and take that next step, no matter how daunting.
Joe’s encouragement wasn’t just kind words—it was a challenge to live fully and to pursue dreams with everything we have.
Encouragement Leaves a Legacy
Joe Bonsall’s legacy is a testament to the ripple effect of encouragement. Each person he inspired will carry his words with them, passing them along to others. It’s a cycle that has no end. We may not all leave behind platinum records or a place in the Country Music Hall of Fame, but we all have the ability to leave a legacy of encouragement. And that legacy has the power to transcend generations.
How You Can Be an Encourager
You don’t need a stage or a platform to encourage someone. You just need the willingness to notice others and speak life into their dreams. Here are four ways you can start:
1. Acknowledge Strengths: Take a moment to point out the qualities or talents you admire in someone. You might be surprised at how much they need to hear it.
2. Offer Support: Sometimes encouragement isn’t just words; it’s showing up, lending a hand, or providing resources to help someone move forward.
3. Challenge Gently: Encourage people to stretch beyond their perceived limits. Let them know you see their potential, even if they don’t yet.
4. Be Generous with Positivity: Kindness and affirmation cost nothing but have immeasurable value. Share them freely.
You Are Needed
In the spirit of Joe Bonsall, I want to leave you with this: You are capable of more than you realize. Whatever challenges you’re facing, whatever dreams you’ve been putting off—step forward.
The world needs your contribution, and there is someone out there who will be inspired by your journey.
Just as Joe encouraged me, let this post be my encouragement to you. Believe in yourself, take action, and leave a legacy of encouragement for others.
Because, in the end, that might be the most iconic thing any of us can do.
