I was playing drums in a family band that opened for the country star at a concert at the little high school I attended.

After the first of two shows, Jim Ed approached me and said, “I’m looking for a new drummer — and I’d like it to be you!”

I couldn’t believe it — a country star and Grand Ole Opry member wanted me in his band? Jim Ed — even though he probably didn’t realize it — forced me to make a decision: I had to choose if I wanted to be a drummer…or if I wanted something else in my life.

I was hit with the thought that it’s one thing to PLAY drums…it’s another to BE a drummer. One is participation…the other is commitment.

After I had thought about it for a while, I was literally shaking from anxiety as I told him that I was sorry, but I couldn’t accept his generous offer.

He smiled and said, “Whatever you do in life…do it as well as you play those drums.”

I only talked to him a couple of times after that…but, I’ll never forget the wonderful opportunity he provided, or his sincere kindness. I often think of how different my life would have turned out if I had taken him up on the job. And, I always thank him that he moved me to prioritize what was REALLY important in my life…even in my teens.

Jim Ed passed away from lung cancer at the age of 81. My friends, the Oak Ridge Boys, sang at his service. All reflected on this gentle man’s elegance and legacy.

You may never know the impact that you have on someone else’s life.

What can you do today to make someone’s life better?